Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. She was very nice and polite and very good with my granddaughter. By submitting email you agree to get Bored Panda newsletter. Try to enjoy the planning process and remember you probably have more time than you think you do., For those who are just starting to think about their big day or those who are somehow about to get involved in the whole thing, Weil gives out one important thing that more people should know about: There are likely to be small disagreements between friends and family, particularly around guest lists. If the planning would have ended with me having more guests than she would've had, then I would've willingly covered entirely the cost of the extra guests coming from my side. When someone moves across the country, they accept the reality that they'll miss milestones for all sorts of reasons ranging from costs to time. INFO: what do you mean by being generous? NTA. Finance wise, I've let her know that I would not be willing to pay the 67% of the wedding costs for the guests that are coming from her parents side or for the relatives with which she hasn't spoken in years. I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. Specifically, the wedding date is set for Halloween because OP herself (as well as her partner, a 30-year-old . My daughter and I were given a 6 oz. Saul Tolstych. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. 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I've read almost all of your comments and I'll keep doing that. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. They've only got themselves to blame. 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Therefore, from my side, I'd be having about 35 guests. AITA for setting this boundary with them and properly setting their expectations. Hey Pandas, What Was Your Popular Moment? Start writing! We were curious to find out whether situations like this happen often. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. .FIYolDqalszTnjjNfThfT{max-width:256px;white-space:normal;text-align:center} This sounds like it is months in advance so people like the dj and photographer have plenty of time to find a new gig. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. What happens when you cant spend one of the most important days with someone you want to spend your whole life with? We went to two out of state weddings in less than 6 months. Please enter your email to complete registration. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. Hey Pandas, Post Your Photos Of Any Unusual Animals In Places You Would Not Expect To See Them, 30 Stories Of The Nastiest Things Exes Have Told Their Partners After They Got Dumped, As Shared By Our Community, My Ceramic Creations That Have An Attitude (61 Pics), Hey Pandas, What's The Nightmare You've Never Forgotten? It's a shame, but there it is. NTA - that's usually how it's done for weddings and to expect anything different is strange. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. My husband (32) and I (26) have been married for nearly 6 months. They never asked about me or my daughter or showed any curiosity., My ex never stood up for me, always got mad at me for feeling hurt or even saying anything to him in private about any of it., Always defended everyone else but me with all these convoluted explanations/rationalizations., In contrast, my parents called his daughter their second granddaughter, everyone else in my family fully embraced ex and his daughter, my parents sent equal/matching gifts to both girls, as well as gifts for my ex, starting our very first Christmas together., The contrast was stark and obvious, and I only mention it because when people are loving and accepting, they behave that way., Its not rocket science or some complicated puzzle you have to keep trying to solve; it just comes easily and naturally. Lol. And his name is Crazy man. literally whenever I would start talking both of them would start scrolling on their phones., Im not even kidding. I did not argue with my sister because my best friend wasn't invitedI just wasn't sure how else to title this without it being too wordy. She kinda agrees with it being a small wedding, though, she'd like to invite family members with which she hasn't even spoken in years (to quote her: "they're still family overall, it's not nice"). Press J to jump to the feed. Sounds like someone who doesn't plan ahead. When someone does this, it's time to pick up the phone. Brian Skellenger. These expenses are unplanned and more than I am able to afford. Theres the spouse, kids, friends, parents. 2 Reply DisgruntledPelican54 43 min. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Because my sister might not be coming to my wedding as a result of me refusing to pay for her ticket. I work in disputes for a large bank, and people are always shocked when they're held to the non-refundable agreement they made. But they are not assholes if they won't come as a result. ._1LHxa-yaHJwrPK8kuyv_Y4{width:100%}._1LHxa-yaHJwrPK8kuyv_Y4:hover ._31L3r0EWsU0weoMZvEJcUA{display:none}._1LHxa-yaHJwrPK8kuyv_Y4 ._31L3r0EWsU0weoMZvEJcUA,._1LHxa-yaHJwrPK8kuyv_Y4:hover ._11Zy7Yp4S1ZArNqhUQ0jZW{display:block}._1LHxa-yaHJwrPK8kuyv_Y4 ._11Zy7Yp4S1ZArNqhUQ0jZW{display:none} While generally nta in my opinion, the way he was phrasing the honeymoon plans just rubs me the wrong way for whatever reason. Check your inbox, and click on the link to activate your account. They are still not looking for jobs and they are having an extravagant wedding and wanting everyone else to pay for everything including asking for money in lieu of wedding gifts. Therefore, whenever we need to pay for something, I pay 67% of it, and she's paying the remaining 33%. Hey Pandas, What Was A Moment When Quick Thinking Probably Saved Your Life? The list seems to just go on and on. You are free. First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for sharing their valuable point of view, it's truly appreciated! The planning and arrangements can take their toll on anyone. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction., While we all know how much stress and sleepless nights preparation for the wedding might cause, it was shared that oftentimes people like to plan everything themselves. Anyhoo)., NTA OP. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. If they do rebook, they are required to return the deposit. Skip to first sitch: 20:03. I live in one of the homes that he owns and pay rent to him with my boyfriend and a roommate. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Konstancija is a Content Creator at Bored Panda. We started planning our wedding after being engaged for close to 1 year now, and we've reached the budgeting part, which is tricky to say the least. The father revealed that their family had an agreement that the parents would give their children each $10K to be spent on the wedding or a down payment on their first home. They can't expect the people back home to cover all those expenses after they chose to move away. An absolute blast. NTA, either she pays or she stays home. Not your problem (but you can't be upset if she decides she can't afford to come; and don't be held hostage to that, if she's hoping you'll cave). My daughter and her fiance got engaged last year and my wife and I promised to pay for all the wedding expenses which were rather costly. .Rd5g7JmL4Fdk-aZi1-U_V{transition:all .1s linear 0s}._2TMXtA984ePtHXMkOpHNQm{font-size:16px;font-weight:500;line-height:20px;margin-bottom:4px}.CneW1mCG4WJXxJbZl5tzH{border-top:1px solid var(--newRedditTheme-line);margin-top:16px;padding-top:16px}._11ARF4IQO4h3HeKPpPg0xb{transition:all .1s linear 0s;display:none;fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-button);height:16px;width:16px;vertical-align:middle;margin-bottom:2px;margin-left:4px;cursor:pointer}._1I3N-uBrbZH-ywcmCnwv_B:hover ._11ARF4IQO4h3HeKPpPg0xb{display:inline-block}._2IvhQwkgv_7K0Q3R0695Cs{border-radius:4px;border:1px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-line)}._2IvhQwkgv_7K0Q3R0695Cs:focus{outline:none}._1I3N-uBrbZH-ywcmCnwv_B{transition:all .1s linear 0s;border-radius:4px;border:1px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-line)}._1I3N-uBrbZH-ywcmCnwv_B:focus{outline:none}._1I3N-uBrbZH-ywcmCnwv_B.IeceazVNz_gGZfKXub0ak,._1I3N-uBrbZH-ywcmCnwv_B:hover{border:1px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-button)}._35hmSCjPO8OEezK36eUXpk._35hmSCjPO8OEezK36eUXpk._35hmSCjPO8OEezK36eUXpk{margin-top:25px;left:-9px}._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP,._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP:focus-within,._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP._3aEIeAgUy9VfJyRPljMNJP:hover{transition:all .1s linear 0s;border:none;padding:8px 8px 0}._25yWxLGH4C6j26OKFx8kD5{display:inline}._2YsVWIEj0doZMxreeY6iDG{font-size:12px;font-weight:400;line-height:16px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;padding:4px 6px}._1hFCAcL4_gkyWN0KM96zgg{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-button);margin-right:8px;margin-left:auto;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-errorText)}._1hFCAcL4_gkyWN0KM96zgg,._1dF0IdghIrnqkJiUxfswxd{font-size:12px;font-weight:700;line-height:16px;cursor:pointer;-ms-flex-item-align:end;align-self:flex-end;-webkit-user-select:none;-ms-user-select:none;user-select:none}._1dF0IdghIrnqkJiUxfswxd{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-button)}._3VGrhUu842I3acqBMCoSAq{font-weight:700;color:#ff4500;text-transform:uppercase;margin-right:4px}._3VGrhUu842I3acqBMCoSAq,.edyFgPHILhf5OLH2vk-tk{font-size:12px;line-height:16px}.edyFgPHILhf5OLH2vk-tk{font-weight:400;-ms-flex-preferred-size:100%;flex-basis:100%;margin-bottom:4px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX{margin-top:6px}._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX._19lMIGqzfTPVY3ssqTiZSX._3MAHaXXXXi9Xrmc_oMPTdP{margin-top:4px} Employers don't like that ho~hum attitude, either. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. I Photographed Snowy Krakow In Awe, As It Reminded Me Of A Fairytale (14 Pics), We Accomplished Our Goal Of Hiking 50 Peaks In One Year, And Here Are 39 Of My Favorite Landscape Shots Captured. Or allow/support others doing the same. Skip to GTV: 10:00. Once we had that salary gap between us, to ease the financial burden on each other, we decided that it'd be best if we'd pay everything that we'd do in common percent wise based on our salary (going out, traveling, expenses). She asked for advice on Reddit 's " Am I the A****** " forum. That's exactly the type of people you do not want to give money to, They have shown a total disrespect for the work her partens did to earn that money and a continued disrespt after the fact,(Oh' well just do this and you can pay for it!-No! Image credits: _Bluenose Girl (not the actual image). Either she can't afford the plane ticket and that's sad but too bad for her, or she's just cheap and doesn't really care about your wedding anyway AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! Run, OP. Others were more concerned about the future. ._3oeM4kc-2-4z-A0RTQLg0I{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-pack:justify;justify-content:space-between} What is your take on this situation? Sounds complicated? Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app. His family and I don't have a super strong connection and that is because I don't spend much time around them. After you are married, your MIL will treat your kids differently because they arent her biological grandkids., Things like birthdays and Christmas will become nightmares., I am not talking about paying for education or other more extravagant gifts, just the everyday living experiences., I am not saying you expect any of this, it is just what will probably happen. if you cant afford to foot her fare, then dont. This is a huge red flag and your fiance is not making a good decision here.~Top-Ad-2676, This is spot on. It is also normal for guests to pay their travel and accommodation costs! The man caused a scene and asked the woman whether she said anything that led him to do this. I have a feeling that the parents would do exactly that cos they seem like good decent people. Everyone wins! The end result would be that she'd have about 55-60 guests from her side. Dont forget to share your insights in the comments section! Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. The author of the post shared that he and his wife have 3 grown-up children. Even though this sounds like a great alternative, the parents were quite upset with their daughter spending their $5K on caterers and wedding-related things that they couldnt get back. NTA as long as you arent upset if people who live faraway cant attend. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. ye hq uo. "She is planning her wedding (and let me know a few things she wanted for her special day): Since their future in-laws are so conservative and religious, my husband is not allowed to attend the wedding; I said: OK, it's your day. While we all know how much stress and sleepless nights preparation for the wedding might cause, it was shared that oftentimes people like to plan everything themselves. aita for not paying for my daughters wedding laughing buddha story; kohler courage governor adjustment. Or vice versa. ._1x9diBHPBP-hL1JiwUwJ5J{font-size:14px;font-weight:500;line-height:18px;color:#ff585b;padding-left:3px;padding-right:24px}._2B0OHMLKb9TXNdd9g5Ere-,._1xKxnscCn2PjBiXhorZef4{height:16px;padding-right:4px;vertical-align:top}.icon._1LLqoNXrOsaIkMtOuTBmO5{height:20px;vertical-align:middle;padding-right:8px}.QB2Yrr8uihZVRhvwrKuMS{height:18px;padding-right:8px;vertical-align:top}._3w_KK8BUvCMkCPWZVsZQn0{font-size:14px;font-weight:500;line-height:18px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._3w_KK8BUvCMkCPWZVsZQn0 ._1LLqoNXrOsaIkMtOuTBmO5,._3w_KK8BUvCMkCPWZVsZQn0 ._2B0OHMLKb9TXNdd9g5Ere-,._3w_KK8BUvCMkCPWZVsZQn0 ._1xKxnscCn2PjBiXhorZef4,._3w_KK8BUvCMkCPWZVsZQn0 .QB2Yrr8uihZVRhvwrKuMS{fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)} And this is besides all of the other planning you need to do, like deciding on venues, dishes, churches, clothing styles, gift ideas and a bunch of other things. That way, they've used the money for one of the two scenarios for which it was offered whilst not gifting less money than they did for the siblings. What should couples do when they get overwhelmed with the whole planning process? A few months ago we said to our family and friends that only a few select people will be making speeches, and giving them a fairly strict time limit. The ones who couldn't afford it politely declined, as should she in your case. Besides that, her parents want to also invite their own friends and work colleagues, which we've never met. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. The parents offered her money under an either/or scenario, so maybe they should say whilst they are disappointed that first 5K has been lost as a result of being non-refundable, they will hold the rest until such time as the couple are ready to put a deposit on a house. NAH, unless of course you try to guilt trip her, then you would be the AH. There are so many views that I haven't even considered and you are all right in your own way. ._1sDtEhccxFpHDn2RUhxmSq{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-flow:row nowrap;flex-flow:row nowrap}._1d4NeAxWOiy0JPz7aXRI64{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}.icon._3tMM22A0evCEmrIk-8z4zO{margin:-2px 8px 0 0} I had to set a boundary with them and let them know I can pay for 2 of the 3 things they are requesting - either the shower, the transportation to the wedding or rent. Please provide your email address and we will send your password shortly. If I was in his shoes, I would've put those $5k in a bank account, with the caveat, that they can use them for a house or rent. Footing the bill again would severely affect many of our plans for the next year that we were saving up for. 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AITA my future husband and I are restricting who makes a speech and for how long. AITA for leaving my husband's brother's wedding after I got told to sit with "formal guests"? While I disagree with this imo and would never do it. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction.. However the amount of money that went down the drain after the postponement is insane especially in this financial climate. ago They asked me to have the bridal shower at my home since most of the guests live close to here and they now live in another state. The extra guests cost would be 1 month's salary for her. Concerns were raised about the relationship. (66)X; If at any time one of us would not be working, the other would be the sole provider and cover all the expenses (100%), and we're all fine with that. as long as you are both perfectly okay with her not coming, NTA. Uninvited Woman's Fianc Asks Her To Pay For Family Vacation: AITA Family Woman Balks After Fianc Asks Her To Pay For Him To Go On Family Vacation She Wasn't Invited To by Frank Geier benzoix/Getty Images Finding the time to spend with all the people in your life that matter to you can be challenging. I would not marry this man., Yeah the silence from him is alarmingly loud. Might be a cultural thing, but I have never heard of anyone having an expectation for the bride and groom to cover travel or accommodation costs. (And it goes both ways, if you move across the country you can't really expect people to show up for everything, and you can't be upset when you don't get crowds for your wedding). A lot of users online agreed with the man, stating that she isnt entitled to this money, its seen more as the parents generous offer. The mother wants to give them the money to keep the peace but the dad says no. 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